Super South Asian Wedding
Crazy Bengali wedding at Dulwich College
Tas and Amy got in contact with me from their sun-drenched home in San Francisco and told me they were getting married in London in the grand settings of Tas’ old school – Dulwich College. The wedding was to be traditional in structure but relaxed in attitude. For me, that means exotic colour and ceremony allied to having a cracking time – the perfect wedding combo. They wanted a relaxed photography style that captured a sense of place, style, mood but ultimately was driven by moments.
I’ve got to say that I’m thankful that all my couples share the same view on weddings that I do: that no matter the conventions, traditions, formalities or ‘stuff’ – it’s first and foremost a celebration with loved ones so let’s bloody celebrate it! Amy and Tas were no different. Despite the difficulties of organising a wedding from across the pond, and despite last minute hitches that resulted in everybody getting ready in the same house, they (and their families+friends) took it all in easy stride.
Dulwich College is lovely and we certainly made the most it. The wedding ceremony took place in cosy confines of The Old Library and The Great Hall hosted the celebrations, whilst the ornate grounds offered a space for kids to run riot and later on, some opportunities for portraits once the bright sun descended.
The South Asian formalities in a very Olde English setting was a cultural mash-up, perfectly encapsulated by their newly-wed entrance in a London taxi, flanked by a couple of dhol players!
However, before the wedding day was the small matter of the ‘Gaye Holud’, a very Bengali take on the pre-wedding henna party which involves the couple sitting on the dais whilst guests delicately brush turmeric paste on their faces. Or as the photos show, not so delicately.
Bengali wedding terminology:
- The gaye holud – the pre-wedding party and litereally means ‘turmeric on the body’
- The nikah – the wedding ceremony
- The walimah – the wedding breakfast
- dhol players – double handed drummers